OK.. so I was talking to my friend RJ the other day ... (now u may all think i have no one else to talk to :D ) , he's sweet n fun (u shud try talking to him.. in short, pakaa daalo usko :D ) , anywayz I had a fight wid my parents that day, and I was telling him about it, which led to him telling me I shouldn't be fighting wid them as one day I'll be leaving them (when I get married dat is), and then I would regret it. He also added my parents wud be happy if I get married, I never really thought of it that way, cuz the thought of marriage scares me .. (ya , more than spiders too!!!)
People have different perspectives and different reasons of getting married...
1. Most of the time, its parents who want their (grown-up) kids to have their own families and settle down in life .. also called as an "arranged marriage"
2. For some couples, marriage happens when they get to know each other, fall in love and decide they want to grow old together as well..
3. For some, it maybe the fear of being alone in the later halves of their lives..
4. And for the rest, its a license to have sex !! :D (True!!)
I would always ponder on what could be MY reason IFFFF I get married (mind u, dats a Big IF there!)
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As of now, I don't fear being alone in life .. as there are a million things I want to do for which even a lifetime wouldn't be enough.. I'll keep myself busy, no worries! :)
Secondly, I'm happy with just a driver's license ! :D
So the last two reasons are ruled out here.
Point no. 2 would be the only reason I would want to get married, but chances of that happening are negligible.. Being a FOSLA member (incase u haven't read my earlier posts, it stands for Failed One Sided Lovers Association :D ), falling in love is as difficult as solving Physics Equations !!!
Coming to point 1 , I never really understood the concept of an arranged marriage.It differs everywhere. Formerly (or still in some households), a girl, or a bride would be chosen by the photo that she sends out. I really dont understand how a guy decides whom to spend the rest of his life with just by looking at that photo. Isn't knowing the person more important people??Anyways, so after this photuu-shotuu selection, the couple then would tie the knot where actually, they'd get to see each other for real !! Now that's really ridiculous... I would be lucky in this case, since my photos turn out to be 10 times better than what I actually look like !! Mandap se hi bhaag jaaayega yedaa :D And what if , God forbid, this girl gets chickenpox, or smallpox, or any kind of "pox" dat makes u look all ugly .. would the guy (her husband then) stop loving her then?
A tradition which 'modern' families follow ..
Guy meets girl, girl meets guy. Guy drinks chaai. He likes it. Boom! And they get married...!
(A nice concept for a tea advertisement by da way!)
This is done so that they meet each other atleast before marriage. I STILL don't get it. Is a day, or an hour enough to know someone and decide you want to grow old with this person?
THIS I told my mom. She told me the "getting-to-know" phase comes after the engagement is done. And what if, after this phase, I realise I don't like the guy after all ! What happens to the guy then? What happens to our parents' hopes? All good that can come out of this is relatives and neighbours can gossip to glory!
So... After a lot of thought, I decided.. Till the time I find those Physics Equations easier, I'm happily married - to my single status ! ;-)