A lot of times, I take too long to make a decision and often, beat myself over it thus get stressed.
Over time, I have learnt that one can look at one of these parameters while making decisions :
1) Importance
Look at how important making this decision is to you. Is it life altering? Will it significantly change things?
If yes, does doing it move you towards your end goal/values? If yes, do it. If no, don't.
If it is not life altering, look at the 2nd parameter.
2) The Happiness Advantage
Does this make you happy?
If yes, does this also contribute to the happiness of others who may be important to you? If yes, do it. If no, you may still do it but if it is instead causing them harm in a way that it is hindering their spiritual growth or obstructing their personal goals, don't do it.
If it does not make you happy i.e. sucks the energy out of you, don't do it.
If it does not significantly affect your happiness, don't waste much time on thinking over it because it does not matter what you choose to do. Take a random decision and shift focus to yourself or if you can, decide not to take a decision at all.
Over time, I have learnt that one can look at one of these parameters while making decisions :
1) Importance
Look at how important making this decision is to you. Is it life altering? Will it significantly change things?
If yes, does doing it move you towards your end goal/values? If yes, do it. If no, don't.
If it is not life altering, look at the 2nd parameter.
2) The Happiness Advantage
Does this make you happy?
If yes, does this also contribute to the happiness of others who may be important to you? If yes, do it. If no, you may still do it but if it is instead causing them harm in a way that it is hindering their spiritual growth or obstructing their personal goals, don't do it.
If it does not make you happy i.e. sucks the energy out of you, don't do it.
If it does not significantly affect your happiness, don't waste much time on thinking over it because it does not matter what you choose to do. Take a random decision and shift focus to yourself or if you can, decide not to take a decision at all.
"Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There’s still time to change the road you’re on."
There’s still time to change the road you’re on."
- “Stairway to Heaven”, Led Zeppelin (Source: Nissim's blog)
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